Monday, January 21, 2013
what is real?
"what is REAL?" asked the velveteen rabbit one day..."does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said the skin horse. "it's a thing that happens to you. When someone loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."
"does it hurt?" asked the rabbit.
"sometimes," said the skin horse, for he was always truthful. "when you are Real you don't mind being hurt."
"does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or is it bit by bit?"
"it doesn't happen all at once," said the skin horse. "you become. it takes a long time. that's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept.
"generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. but these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand...once you are Real you can't become unreal again. it lasts for always."
*this is a beautifully sad passage from the velveteen rabbit by margery williams. it was one of my favorite books when i was very small. if you haven't read it, i highly recommend it. even though it's a picture book it still has a lovely message about what it means to be loved by another.